Many unhappy people feel that happiness is something given to them. They feel that they either have it or they don’t. Our core beliefs do not align with these thoughts, as we believe that happiness is something that is chosen in life. The moment you decide to be happy your life will change for the better.
Today’s post is about a young adult that was struggling to find his way. He had a simple life growing up and nothing ever seemed too hard. Well, after graduation, the man (we will not disclose his name) did not like where he was in life. College was a time of partying, and his life after university closely resembled that for a few years.
We met with the young man at a coffee shop in his local town: Tampa, Florida. The man described his feelings to us, and we told him that it starts with being happy. Then, as expected he asked, “So how do you become happy?”. We told him that you simply tell yourself that is your decision. He looked confused. Trust me, that is not the first time someone has given us that look.
The young man was open and took all our advice to heart, but still did not feel we had told him anything special. We understand that these changes will not happen overnight, so we told him to try our experiment and meet us back here in two weeks. Our instructions were simple. Every time you catch yourself thinking about your life, we want you to do two things:
1) Tell yourself that you are happy.
2) Ask yourself what actions need to be taken in order to achieve maximum happiness.
The man returned at our scheduled time and looked like someone with a lot to talk about. We asked him to explain his experience with us. He told us that there were many times where he felt unhappy. He did as we told him and followed our two step procedure. The main difference was the follow-up action he took. Instead of doing the same repeated actions over and over again (the ones that made him unhappy), he changed his behavior.
He told us that partying made him feel uncomfortable, but he did it to “fit in”. The next time he was asked to party, he simply said no and decided to read a book. The moment he took control of his happiness was the moment it all changed. Again, we know that the change will not happen overnight; it takes time to make these mental shifts in thinking.
We told the young man to meet us back here in one year. We just finished our talk two days ago, and the young man had so many great stories to tell us. He told us that he is the happiest he has ever been in his entire life. It is an amazing feeling to impact someone’s life like that. For someone to tell you they are now the happiest in their life, where they were miserable prior, is the reason why we inspire people.
We plan to keep contact with the young man over the coming years. He told us he will spread our teachings to the people he meets along his journey. Together, we can all be happiness preachers. Get out there and smile.
Bonus: check out the video below. It covers scientific ways to achieve happiness. Enjoy.